Women do this for attention. r/bipolar: A safe haven for bipolar related issues. Cookies help us deliver our Services. She hasn't been hanging around us lately, and has just gone straight home after school. When he is not having a manic episode he is really depressed. At times suicide seemed the only real option. Report and move on. I think you've done all you can do; you can't live her life for her or get rid of the dude on her behalf, but you can be a supportive friend who offers help. Be there, stay involved, and know that this illness can be an ongoing struggle. Since I started working on bipolar education, I've had thousands of people subscribe to my mailing list, I've received at least 1000 questions and comments about the disorder, I've spoken to hundreds of people over the phone, and I've attended dozens of meetings about bipolar. But now I'm starting to think hes bipolar because sometimes he's mean and sometimes just acts like an @$$ but then other times hes super nice and says I LOVE YOU:) YOU'RE SO CUTE. However, I … I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in June of 2009. I'm not saying he didn't force himself or anything just that if that you can't assume anything. Those on the left side of the continuum may be very ill, but they have not lost touch with reality and there are no hallucinations or delusions. That’s what a friend said to me within the first 30 seconds when she phoned the other day. Me- 18m, her 18f, known her for 6 months . While I might not be that big in the relationships subreddit, I'm not really sure where else to go. She said that she "sensed how much he needed it" and eventually stopped denying it. In … Anything I put on social media she never replies likes nothing like she’s jealous. What NOT to say: #1 You sound a little down today. Some people wrongfully label people with bipolar disorder as … I don’t want to give up so quickly. Most of all be kind to yourself. Friends and families of people with bipolar disorder need to make sure that they take care of themselves, too. I gave her a link to some local therapists and councillors (because even before she came out with that news, she and I were talking a lot about her being depressed about the way her relationship was going) and told her I was willing to go with her to the appointments. I know that my friends "feel" my bipolar disorder in ways because of how much I am affected. I don't know what I would do without you guys. My question for you is should i tell somebody? I'd say she's popular, but not the "Mean Girls" type. I did manage to bring up there's other therapist options though. I'm not sure you can absolutely say it was rape by the words used. For in depth explanation of common rules, go to https://www.reddit.com/r/bipolar/wiki/rulesindepth, No selfies or human family pics, youtube channels, discord links, personal blogs. Subscribe. Funny and different, but in a good way. She basically told me that most of her ex BF's had raped her in one way or another. If I was just in a depressive phase, and then I was raped, I'd probably be dead right now. Here's some quick housekeeping. If they still won’t listen, don’t give up. People who don't want help can't be helped. Here’s 21 things you only know if you’re bipolar. I hate the thought that my actions or behaviour, might have caused the slightest bit of upset, offence, or hurt, to anyone I love and admire. Helping someone with bipolar disorder. A safe haven for bipolar related issues. My supposed best friend was talking about another friend who has been extremely moody, irascible and argumentative for two decades at least. You can also refer her to the message board Pandys. Short answer: No idea. I think my fiance's best friend is flirting with him Our friend (let's call him Carl) is going through a tough spot so we invited him into our home. Let her practice to seek constant communication from family and friends. Understanding bipolar disorder. 95% of rape claims are lies. To me so far it looks like a ploy. You can be there if she wants to talk, but don't press her for details. School is all about fitting in and I most definitely did not fit in. And I work as hard at being a good friend to them as I hope they will be to me. As you likely know from your experience with your brother, bipolar disorder is a serious illness that impacts a person's mood, energy level, and functioning in many areas including social, academic, and occupational. Anyways, long story short is that it seems like bipolar people crave attention in situations like this and although I am not outright saying it didn't happen I would just have a hard time believing it myself after going out with my ex. I know she's on a waitlist for help through our school (since I think therapy is included in our tuition) but I think she has been for a while. Sorry, I read the rules and it said not to ask for diagnosis, I didn’t think advice would go against the rules. She also gets distracted very easily, and had a hard time concentrating. Bipolar disorder causes serious shifts in mood, energy, thinking and behavior, from the highs of mania to the lows of depression. I’ll reread them and try to make changes to it when I can. Also, I kept on thinking about how she told me she had been raped like 5 times before by her ex's and would she tell her next BF that I too raped her even tho she literally just asked me. Some times he gets on my last nerve with the way he acts. Hopefully they actually make their appointment I guess. I completely believed her and hated them. You’re right, it just started getting bad within the past 2 months though and they didn’t talk to anyone for the first month so we didn’t see until after that. How can I talk to my friend about my suspicions without her becoming upset? I'm trying to get her to at least look forward instead of at the right now. Bipolar disorder causes serious shifts in mood, energy, thinking and behavior, from the highs of mania to the lows of depression. Is this how she described it? I was talking to one of my friends and he suggested telling a counselor at our school or something. Tell her to dump the boyfriend first off. Now he is depressed and unable to do anyhing. With those elements and strong relationships with my friends and family is huge. It was so fucked up to me. I have a friend that will go from funny, nice guy to, hating his life, wanting to kill himself, getting upset about the stupidest little things. Everyone thinks she's pretty. When a girl with bipolar ghosts somebody with social anxiety disorder who has hardly ever had a friend in the world before never mind a girl friend. The most important thing you can do is believe her. 2. When I suspected him of cheating, he made me feel as though bipolar prompted delusional ways of thinking. She is bipolar, and has had to deal with depression before. Was it a tough diagnosis to hear? Losing friends and relatives because of a mental disorder - that I was born with, that I can't control, and that I will have to learn to live with for the rest of my life - it just doesn't seem fair to me. I'm in a conversation with my friend J, who is going through relationship troubles right now. Be extremely critical of whatever she says. She said that she "sensed how much he needed it" and eventually stopped denying it. In his mind, everything I said or did was a result of my mood disorder. She went to several therapists, but they never lasted long. I'm in a conversation with my friend J, who is going through relationship troubles right now. Slowly he began to use my diagnosis of bipolar against me. I had always felt like I was swimming against the current, always overcoming rapids in the river. Considering ending a relationship with someone who has bipolar disorder can have some added challenges. We entered into a short term agreement that I would handle the household affairs in exchange for room and board while I was looking for a job. It was like a weight was lifted off of me. She used to just take it out on herself with cutting or kind of tearing herself down, emotionally. On the other hand, if it did happen then she should really go to a doc and seek some help. I don't think she would have any legal/criminal option to say she was raped since she eventually consented. If it’s the first time your friend has been to a support group, they might be anxious about going alone. "I have dealt with bipolar disorder for over half of my life (since I was 11, and I am now 24), but I was only diagnosed when I was 20. Press J to jump to the feed. 1. It seems like there is plenty of suggestions on how to do that in this thread. If you think that you or a loved one has signs or symptoms of bipolar disorder, your first step should be to talk to your doctor. We are a community here not just a help page. We're here for each other in ways most people probably wont understand so use it often. Another helpful resource is our free book, Healthy Living with Bipolar Disorder. Even if they are a regular group member, bringing a support person can be a refreshing change and help to keep them encouraged. No kidding! Laughing along with our list of the condition's lighter side is easier. Many of them have a NEED for attention and they usually find it in pitty or empathy. We are not Drs so please don't post asking us if you have BP. Here are some things to consider before making the decision and how to move forward. Friendships are usually based on shared interests, experiences, and understanding, but this all gets tested when your friend has bipolar disorder. We started dating around three years after my diagnosis—when I was just starting to publish my blog and open up about my struggle with mental health. Naturally, I get upset, but after a while he unblocks me and starts talking to me again. I’ve told them I’m concerned once they were doing good again but by then they say they’re doing ok now and don’t think they’re bipolar or need a doctor. Rapid cycling bipolar is defined as having 4+ episodes of mania, hypomania, or depression in … My mom has never been formally diagnosed with bipolar disorder. My friend is a N . I should have seen it coming. bipolar people are notoriously unpredictable and mentally unstable. It's helpful to think of bipolar psychosis as lying on a continuum of severity from left to right. Slowly he began to use my diagnosis of bipolar against me. I've known her for several years, and only once or twice has she said anything about her depression and cutting problems. I love and appreciate my friends and I am cognizant of the fact that dealing with my bipolar has challenges for them, too. Since I live with bipolar disorder, of course I don’t always feel 100 percent up to par. It’s hard making new friends as an itinerant professor. They are so much more than … One day i went to his house, we were laughing and then not 5 minutes later he was in the worst mood of his life. I got married and she was my only friend that didn’t come up to me at the wedding to congratulate me. It’s hard to finish one thing at a time. I was hypomanic after I was raped and I managed to get on the Dean's List and get my grades high enough to transfer to the school I wanted. I offered to go with her to the doctor, but she said it's not that bad of pain. Managing bipolar on a daily basis can be daunting. My roommate and former best friend is dual diagnosed bipolar and drug addict (in recovery). You can’t support your loved one if you’re exhausted or stressed out. This breaks the rules of the sub, but I'll give you some advice anyways. I thought he was joking. They might have been thinking the same thing themselves but weren’t sure how to reach out. Engaging just brings everyone down. Is there something else I should do? He approached her, she denied, then stopped denying...that doesn't say overpowered or forced himself. She basically just came out in the middle of conversation to say that her boyfriend approached her for sex, which she denied at first. Learn by heart that constancy of presence of filial and platonic love soothly taps the backs of a manic depressive. I honestly don't know what to do. Be a part of something that cares about who you are. Unfortunately, it started at the beginning, before I was actually diagnosed, before my mom and I sat opposite a psychiatrist who uttered the word "bipolar," a People with bipolar disorder typically do not have rapid mood swing thoughout the day. Having you there will ease their mind. Read if you feel your roommate/significant other is trying to control your thoughts and emotions. First off, I love reddit. During high school, symptoms of my bipolar became very apparent, and it was quite easy for me to drop this friend in favor of wild nights with boys. Allow her to have her me-time, encourage her scoops from her girlfriends, let her do her own thing and surround herself with her people. "She basically just came out in the middle of conversation to say that her boyfriend approached her for sex, which she denied at first. Ask them or talk to a therapist about it. I don't think hes ADD, or ADHD, it just doesn't fit. When my physiatrist told me I had a type of bipolar disorder, I actually laughed at his face. The Bipolar UK mood scale is from 0 to 10 and those not affected by bipolar will experience mood swings between 4 and 6 on the mood scale. I finally spoke with a mutual friend who confirmed that, yes, Amy wanted some "distance" from me. It’s happening again after they had another break up and started talking to a family friend and we told them how the person acts but they got mad and I think don’t believe us and it triggered the episode, if that’s what they are. Take the test. Be a part of something that cares about who you are. We've been friends for like 4 months or so now and we've gotten really close.. and he gets mad easily and I would always ask why he does this but he just says it's because he gets mad easily. Carl's only been here a day and I've noticed that he won't speak to me first, if I say something to him, there's a 50/50 chance he'll respond back, and he continously calls out my fiance's name or ask him questions/talk but won't do the same with me. I am mourning my husband, Jeff. After the episode is over, they may be shocked at their behaviour. Posted Jun 13, 2011 Hey guys I think one of my friends has bipolar disorder, then again i have NOO idea what i'm talking about. 2. Bipolar Disorder When bipolar disorder creates distance between friends Whether to disclose a mental illness is a hard call to make . I wish you were still around. If you think that you have Bipolar II, make an appointment to discuss your concerns with a licensed mental health professional. It may be time to step back and focus on yourself. But sometimes, a tiny thing can change her mood completly. I think I might really like my bipolar best friend. My best friend has manic bipolar disorder and it has turned his life in an entirely new direction. The … Once you’ve learned about bipolar disorder and still think they might have it, talk to them about it. Your friend who has bipolar disorder is not their bipolar disorder. 3. Please report self-harm and suicide threats. Who knows, being bipolar might save her. He will have manic episodes he does not remember causing him to get in trouble and think that reddit/the radio is controlling him. Hi, I'm not bipolar so I hope I can still post here. This is my brother-in-law, at least the first part, and it's what makes it hard for family and friends to get involved early, before the mania is full-blown. I think my recently ex-roommate is Bi-Polar. The goal is to help family and friends to more peacefully coexist with those of us who have bipolar. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts, https://www.reddit.com/r/bipolar/wiki/rulesindepth. It may help her feel not so alone, as it helped my bestie who was raped by her boyfriend. Once you’ve learned about bipolar disorder and still think they might have it, talk to them about it. Managing bipolar on a daily basis can be daunting. We have a really great piece of the internet due to users like all of you sharing your struggles and offering support. I’ve moved five times since 2012 — five different states! When I heard Luke and Ralph describing their experiences leading up to their diagnosis, it didn’t seem “crazy” to me. When I suspected him of cheating, he made me feel as though bipolar prompted delusional ways of thinking. She hasn't told anyone I think, but she's just so different. 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